Whether you are asked to give a eulogy or you have decided that you would like to do so, it can be difficult to distill a close relationship into a few short paragraphs. Before you start writing, think back to your relationship with the person who has passed and you will find that a few memories will quickly rise to the top; remember where and how you met? What will you miss most? What is your favorite story or anecdote about them? It is these intimate pieces that will be the building blocks of a beautiful eulogy.
Now that you are ready to set your eulogy down on paper, here are a few more things to remember and include:
Even if most of the people attending know you, it is a good idea to mention your name and how you knew the deceased.
Set an Appropriate Tone
If you are uncomfortable sharing your grief, you may consider a lighter tone with humorous stories, or alternately, you may want to keep the feeling somber and serious.
Know Your Audience
While the tone that you set has to feel right for you, don’t forget to consider who will be listening; for example, inside jokes may fall flat and risqué encounters may not be appropriate for grandparents.
If you discuss a particular quality, it will be far more resonant if you also include a personal story or an example of that quality being exhibited; remember, your personal portrayal may also be a cherished memory for family and friends.
Once you’ve crafted your eulogy, it is always a good idea to practice it in front of others and allow them to share what they think.
SPEAK FROM YOUR HEART
Through a eulogy, you have the opportunity to say goodbye to your loved one in an intimate environment, surrounded by friends and family. Speak from your heart and offer these treasured reminiscences to those who share your grief.